A step-by-step guide on how to handle an aggressive preschooler
You often might feel like an awful parent. When your preschooler throws a tantrum or behaves in an extremely questionable way. Yes, we all have been there and done that. kindergarten kids often develop in various aspects and some happen to be ‘extreme reactors’ while some children are easy going. As a parent, it is our job to teach them how to communicate their emotions in less violent gestures. This is not an easy task so embrace yourself for a rough ride. you need an immense amount of patience to teach your child how to channel their emotions and opinions.
There are innumerable factors that play their role in your child’s emotional development. Every exposure or interaction they have paves a way to their current personality. That is why rest assured. You and your friend might have toddlers of the same age, throwing tantrums. It will never be for the same reason or issue. No two children are alike. So do not experiment with any techniques your friend suggests you. Here is a step-by-step guide on how to calm down and interact with an aggressive preschooler.
1. Observe your preschooler’s reaction.
It is extremely essential that you note down the behavioral changes in your child and respond accordingly. Follow the 4 Ws I have devised to understand it.
Why are they behaving that way?
When do they behave that way mostly?
What was happening before it?
Where is the behavior happening often?
2. How to respond/plan it beforehand.
Plan ahead on how your child will react to a certain incidence. Warn them beforehand like ”let’s go to the dentist and after that, we can have an ice-cream from Baskin Robbins, how does that sound?’. Moreover, help your child understand their overwhelming emotions and guide them through it. Be empathetic towards their issues. you might not remember how it must be being a toddler. However, do not disregard their queries.
3. How to react to an outburst of a preschooler.
Take the following measures when your child is throwing a tantrum.
1. Let them have their time.
2. Stay calm
3. Hear them out
4. Try to communicate with your preschooler using gestures.
5. Recognize their goal
6. Offer alternative
7. Try multiple distractions for your preschooler.
8. Suggests a physical outlet like running around.
9. Give them a break
10. Point out logical consequences to preschooler aged 2.5 years older.
In the end, it all comes down to you. How you remain consistent, avoid negotiation. Give preschoolers a chance to self-improve and express. If the situation is taking a toll on your mental health. Visit a professional psychiatrist for consultation.